Dating Dilemmas: Episode #16
by Motte Brown on May 9, 2008 at 4:10 PM

This Sunday is Mother's Day. So our host Lisa Anderson kicks off The Boundless Show with an encouraging word about her mom and how she prays for the show each week, even though she's never heard it; because she doesn't own a computer and refuses to get one because of "all that porn." But she understands it's an audio show so at least it's in the ballpark.

Steve Watters ends the segment with a poignant reminder of why we all need to take the time to make this Mother's Day a special one.

Roundtable -- 6:50
Is it OK for Christians to go camping alone with their girlfriends or boyfriends? Hmm. That's one of the dating dilemmas we discuss in our roundtable this week. Other dilemmas revolve around jobless men and spendthrift women. It's a fun segment, but we hope you'll find it helpful as well.

Culture -- 22:35
Many of you have probably already seen Facing the Giants from Sherwood Pictures, the movie production arm of Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany, Georgia. Well, they have a new movie coming out this September called Fireproof and Lisa had a chance to sit down with Jim McBride and Steven Kendrick after a special screening here at Focus on the Family. I couldn't make it but based on what everybody had to say, it's a must-see!

Hungry Years -- 33:29
When John Thomas was offered his first job out of college, he was a reluctant candidate. One of the marks against it was the location ... his hometown. And who wants to move back home right after college. Nobody, right? But despite low pay and no benefits, would it turn out to be an offer he couldn't refuse? Check it out. I guarantee you'll laugh out loud.

Inbox -- 38:50
Does Boundless have an unbalanced view of marriage? One of our listeners thinks so after Candice brought up a woman's "help meet" role in last week's podcast. The questioner asks in short, shouldn't women who've done all the right things to "get married" stop chasing men and seek God? Steve and Candice tackle this one with resounding, We agree! But....

I'm including your listening options here because we're working on our artwork this week. If you're inclined to listen on iTunes, please take a moment to leave us a review. Also, if you like to stream or download the MP3 or want to subscribe through RSS, all those options can be found on our Feedburner page.

And last but not least, I'd like to end by thanking West Coast Revival for letting us use their music this week. It really adds to the show. And if you want to hear more go to their Web site.

Don't Be a Wimp: Episode #15
by Motte Brown on May 2, 2008 at 5:09 PM


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I have a tween niece who's into Hannah Montana. That's about all I knew of the Disney Channel show before news broke of semi-nude photo shoot of its star, Miley Cyrus. Here's what I know now:

Miley is the 15-year-old confessing Christian daughter of Billy Ray Cyrus, the confessing Christian country singer who's famous for his song "Achy Breaky Heart" and love of the mullet hairdo.

Anyway, we talk about this controversy to open this week's The Boundless Show. Among the perspectives we cover is something I blogged about months ago, the sexualization of our daughters. Now I know Billy Ray says he wasn't there during that portion of the shoot. But to me it sounds a little like Adam blaming Eve for the fall.

C'mon Billy Ray. Be a man and take responsibility for the sexualization of your little girl.

Roundtable -- 5:50
Is it possible that the reason so many 20-somethings have difficulty transitioning into adulthood -- from high school to college to career to family -- is because of helicopter parenting? Are our padded playgrounds and sanitized gels producing a bunch of mama's boys and cell-phone tethered girls? That's one theory put forth in the book Nation of Wimps from Psychology Today's former editor in chief Hara Marano. Lisa kicks off the discussion with the story of college drop out.

Culture -- 19:30
We're excited to have Plugged In's Bob Waliszewski back with us this week to talk about all the new entertainment releases, including Grand Theft Auto. No judgments here; just slight dispiritedness at the sight of dozens of 20- and 30-something men lined up around the store of the local gaming outlet. As for new movie releases, Bob gives us his perspective on Iron Man and Baby Mama, and an update on Expelled.

Hungry Years -- 31:00
Do nice guys really finish last? Not for those interested in wooing Kara Schwab. In this week's Hungry Years, Kara talks about her attraction to guys who know their way around a spreadsheet. And who finish what they start.

Inbox -- 35:53
This week Candice tackles a really sensitive issue: when to stick your nose into your friend's relationship when you see red flags all around. Candice clarifies the questioner's obligation and how she can do it in a way that preserves the friendship.

Lastly, we have some great new music to feature this week from The Museum. Be sure and check them out on Virb and leave a message about how much you enjoy their stuff. Ted already has.

Striking Young Men Who Use Online Matching Services: Episode #14
by Motte Brown on Apr 25, 2008 at 5:18 PM

Last week we broke the story of eHarmony's promotion of the hook-up culture with an article they published on their advice site titled, "Navigating the One Night Stand." Well, not only did they unpublish it immediately, the vice president of publishing issued a public apology. Kinda. Anyway, our host Lisa Anderson gives the final word on the eHarmony saga to open up this week's The Boundless Show.

Roundtable -- 3:10
Speaking of eHarmony, it's been almost two months since we hosted four single gals to discuss their online dating experiences. When I listened again, I noticed a lot of talk about "freaky" matches. Now you can hear the guy's side of things. This week, we invited four "striking" young men to speak about their experiences with online dating. I think you'll appreciate the balanced perspective they provide.

Culture -- 21:32
We were honored this week to have Focus on the Family President and CEO Jim Daly join us to discuss his book, "Finding Home: An Imperfect Path to Faith and Family." Let's set the stage: Jim's parents were alcoholics and divorced when he was 5. His mom died of cancer when he was nine. He entered the foster care system until his alcoholic father showed up again at age 11. But as Jim says, "God's hand was on us." Listen to find out the rest of the story in this inspirational segment.

Hungry Years -- 35:37
What's it like to graduate with honors and then have to slip on a drug store vest as a first job? This week, Patrick Dunn looks back at what he and his college degree did in his first years on the job market. And how his frustrations caused him to focus on other things during that season -- other things like ... waiting.

Inbox -- 41:48
This week's Inbox is about online pornography. But it's not really about overcoming it; it's when to tell your girlfriend you used to struggle with it. It's a difficult question but Steve Watters handles it with sensitivity and gives the questioner some great thoughts on what to do.

I think you'll be encouraged by this week's episode. And we'd love to hear from you with your thoughts or questions. So write us at editor@boundless.org.

eHedonism: Episode #13
by Motte Brown on Apr 18, 2008 at 6:39 PM


Intro
It's tax week. And we begin this episode of The Boundless Show with a chat on refunds and rebates. The ladies have all kinds of suggestions on how to spend my money. What about you? What will you be doing with your hard earned money?

Roundtable -- 3:35
Dr. Neil Clark Warren launched eHarmony in 2000 with a goal of helping Christian singles build long-lasting relationships by finding their soul mates. But in 2005, Dr. Warren took a decidedly secular turn with his service and it seems to have culminated with an advice site that gives people tips on one night stands and looking great while crashing at your boyfriend's house. As Lisa says in this week's roundtable, "This is not your mother's eHarmony." And we think it's important to expose eHarmony's hedonistic ways to singles who still believe it's a "Christian" dating service.

Culture -- 19:05
What do lightning, crystals and aliens have in common? They're all theories Darwinians have come up with to explain how life began. And though it sounds a bit ridiculous, you'd better not question it if you have a career in academia. Tom Neven explains that that's essentially what Ben Stein's new movie "Expelled: No Intelligence Allowed" is all about. Timely stuff because the movie opens tonight. Go see it!

Hungry Years -- 34:05
This week, Steve Watters brings us a Hungry Years that I guarantee everyone can relate to. I know because we all say things we regret. We all say things that we immediately feel ashamed of because they were said out of anger, selfishness or pride. Here, Steve gives us some great advice on taming the tongue like, "A closed mouth gathers no feet." Awesome.

Inbox -- 38:45
Listen ladies. You have something men want. Actually, you have a lot of things men want. And some men will take and take and take until you stop giving them access "to your heart, to your emotions, and to your time and availability." That's what this week's Inbox is about. Sort of. Anyway, don't miss this one because Candice doesn't hold anything back in this segment.

And remember, you can get to The Boundless Show via either iTunes or Feedburner (our RSS feed).

Life After College, Emergent Explained, and Online Dating Opinions: Episode #12
by Motte Brown on Apr 11, 2008 at 4:16 PM


I've streamlined the format this week. Better or worse? Let me know.

Roundtable -- 5:35
We had the pleasure of hosting three Focus on the Family Institute students for The Boundless Show this week. Jolene, Jenna, and Grant are all recent grads and talk openly about their upcoming transition from college to career; and from the comforts of their parents' home (and insurance) to their own.

Culture -- 15:55
The Emergent Church has always been a bit of an enigma to me. Not anymore. Tom Neven, Focus on the Family's Youth Outreach Director and Boundless contributor, joins our culture segment this week with an in-depth discussion on the beliefs behind the emergent movement. Here's one of those beliefs from an emergent leader that'll pique your interest:

I must add, though, that I don't believe making disciples must equal making adherents to the Christian religion. It may be advisable in many (not all!) circumstances to help people become followers of Jesus and remain within their Buddhist, Hindu, or Jewish contexts. ... I don't hope all Jews or Hindus will become members of the Christian religion. But I do hope all who feel so called will become Jewish or Hindu followers of Jesus.

Listen to the show to find out who said it and what it means.

Inbox -- 35:50
By far the show that's generated the most feedback was Online Dating Mavens. In this Inbox, Lisa goes through the varied responses we received and offers additional insights. Some of the stories she reads give us a look behind the curtain of online profiles at the real people who've found success or have been frustrated by it.

That's about it. If you have questions you'd like us to answer or discuss, please write us at editor@boundless.org.

And as usual, you can get to The Boundless Show via either iTunes or Feedburner (our RSS feed).

Becoming Uncultured: Episode #11
by Motte Brown on Apr 4, 2008 at 1:30 PM


While recording this week's The Boundless Show on media consumption, our engineer Dave Salkeld scolded me for not being more open about my favorite television shows. I had a good reason though. I'm embarrassed by them. But because confession is good for the soul, here's the list of my can't miss viewing vices: Lost, The Office, The Amazing Race, Heroes, American Idol, Clemson Tiger Football, and all the majors in golf.

What do you think? Too much? Not discerning enough? Nerdy? Go ahead and judge. I can take it.

The catalyst for our roundtable discussion was Roberto Rivera Y Carlo's most recent Boundless article about going from conversant to clueless with trends in mass culture. Why would he intentionally forsake knowledge that would keep him abreast of what's going on in the world? Because as Roberto notes, there is such a thing as an "improper desire of knowledge."

Here's another question for you: What are your expectations about marriage? In this week's culture segment, Mitch Temple, Focus on the Family's Director of Marriage, discusses the top myths people have entering marriage and how they affect expectations. Here's myth number three: I can change my spouse. Now that's dangerous.

There are several LOL moments in John Thomas's Hungry Years about a DTR that didn't go exactly according to plan. It's about men risking, women responding, and trusting God. And it's funny.

And in keeping with the marriage and risk themes of the previous two segments, our Inbox question comes from a young man who's a bit anxious about taking on the leadership responsibilities of marriage. I'll summarize what Steve, Ted and I tell this guy: Yes, you're called to be a leader. And it's not easy. But do it anyway. It's worth it.

We got an interesting email from a want-to-listen-but-don't-have-the-time Boundless reader asking for the transcript so they could skim the show online. Well, we don't have capacity for that right now but we do have the segment breaks so you can break the show up into manageable lengths.

Intro
Roundtable -- 4:08
Culture -- 17:28
Hungry Years -- 26:55
Inbox -- 32:25

The Show is available on iTunes. Or you can listen now, download the MP3 or subscribe through RSS here.

When to Settle: Episode #10
by Motte Brown on Mar 28, 2008 at 4:45 PM


My wife confesses to a list she wrote out before we met of characteristics she wanted in a husband. I'm told I was an exact match. But, as we both found out after the wedding, exact matches on some things aren't necessarily a good indicator for marital bliss. Because making two selfish people become one is hard work regardless of mere preferences.

Our roundtable this week revolves around Candice Watters's Boundless article, "When to Settle." During the discussion, Steve makes the observation that too often Christian singles seem willing to settle on biblical criteria when choosing a mate while not giving an inch on cultural ideals like ... a man's height. Is your ideal prohibiting you from moving forward in a relationship?

We have a timely culture segment with Plugged In Online's Bob Waliszewski previewing this week's new movie releases, 21, Run Fat Boy Run, College Road Trip, and Horton Hears a Who! That's right, Horton Hears a Who! Now I know you're thinking you're too old, but for all you 20-somethings who own a Bob the Tomato T-shirt -- and you know who you are -- this Bob says you'll love it.

Whether you're new to Boundless or an aficionado, you may not know much about our Hungry Years segment. In short, it's about life after college -- you know: MREs, training wheels, etc. Or maybe that was just Steve Watters's experience. Anyway, here he puts voice to his essay that started it all.

We end the show with a powerful Inbox segment with Melissa Fryrear, Director of Gender Issues department at Focus on the Family. We asked Melissa to answer a plea for help we received from a young woman who fears she may be a lesbian. Melissa dispels some myths about sexual confusion and provides some comforting answers to many who may be struggling with same-sex attraction.

And if you'd like to go straight to any of the segments I've described, here are the time breaks:

Intro
Roundtable -- 3:50
Culture -- 22:45
Hungry Years -- 34:30
Inbox -- 38:40

You may have noticed that the show's running longer and longer. I'm not sure if it's a trend we'll keep up but let us know what you think about the length, the segments, the music, etc. And if you want to leave us a great review on iTunes, feel free to do that too. ;-)

But if iTunes isn't your cup of tea for your online listening pleasure, you can listen now, subscribe through RSS, or download the MP3 for later consumption by going here.

The Effect of Church on Men: Episode #9
by Motte Brown on Mar 21, 2008 at 6:00 PM


I've never highlighted our podcast chat in these updates but this week offers a potpourri of interesting tales which may or may not be Easter related. Ted tells us why he shuns the term "Easter"; Lisa discusses a profane experience at Starbucks; and Steve talks about ham, basketball, and sin -- all great topics this Holy Week.

Following the chat we have part two of our interview with Kurt Bruner, spiritual formation pastor of Lake Point Church. In this segment, Kurt discusses the benefits of serving in ways that stretch your comfort zone. It's part of choosing the sort of conflict we talked about last week that's vital to conforming to Christ. Convicting.

And you might think Brad Wilcox is a Boundless plant in our culture segment but he's not -- well, not really. He was visiting Focus on the Family and here Lisa asks him about what young single men and women should be doing to prepare for marriage and family.

For The Inbox this week we have a question from a woman who's giving her young adult life to God on the mission field in Nigeria. The thing is, she wants to get married too. And the prospects are slim while in country. So what to do? Well, Steve and Candice Watters provide some encouraging words along with some practical advice.

Here are the segment breaks for this week:

Intro
Roundtable -- 6:02
Culture -- 17:22
Inbox -- 28:08

And, can I just end by saying that I love Salvador? They've allowed us to use their music again and I can't get enough of it. It really adds a lot to the show, doesn't it? So thanks guys.

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Thanks for the reminder about the links Adam T. Here is the podcast homepage where you have the option to listen now or subscribe through RSS or download the MP3. Or if you prefer, just click the podcast icon at the top of the page and it'll take you to our iTunes homepage.

Conformity Through Flesh and Blood Conflict: Episode #8
by Motte Brown on Mar 14, 2008 at 8:21 PM


Are you being more conformed to the image of Christ by sitting alone reading your Bible or by being in close community with fellow believers? Not that's it's an either/or, but it's a lot easier to discern conformity with the latter. At least that's what Kurt Bruner argues on this week's The Boundless Show.

Kurt is the former vice president of "the fun stuff" at Focus on the Family and current spiritual formation pastor at Lake Point Church just outside of Dallas. He's authored over a dozen books (a few of which have the phrase "Finding God in...") and we were honored to have him drop in on our roundtable and answer some questions from The Inbox.

But before we get to that, we have Kara Schwab with this week's segment of The Hungry Years. From the mouths of her own babes we get a glimpse of what it means to have faith like a child. And sometimes how uncomfortable it can make adults feel.

Now, back to Bruner. One of the books he wrote that didn't have "Finding God" in it is Playstation Nation. It's not a Christian book per se but I think a lot of Christian gamers will find it helpful. Here, Kurt answers some skeptics from our blog in response to a post I wrote about his book.

And because you want your media whenever, wherever and whichever way you like, here are this week's segment breaks:

Intro
Roundtable -- 4:00
Hungry Years -- 23:15
Inbox -- 28:10

I'd like to thank Jesse Butterworth and Jim Adam for providing this week's music. Good stuff. So go check them out. And if you haven't already, you can subscribe to The Boundless Show via iTunes or RSS.

Online Dating Mavens: Episode #7
by Motte Brown on Mar 7, 2008 at 6:50 PM


If you or someone you know has tried online dating, this is the show for you. And if you haven't or you don't, it's still the show for you because of Salvador, John Thomas, and an intriguing Inbox segment.

We begin our seventh episode with a lively roundtable of single young women discussing their experiences with online dating -- some good, some bad. In addition to sharing their stories, they take an honest look at why singles pursue matches online rather than off-line. It's something we've touched on before here and here.

Following the roundtable we have part two of our interview with Salvador. Here they talk about their musical and spiritual influences as well as the importance of vibrant Christian community, particularly for men. Why? Because as lead singer Nic says, temptations are just more accessible these days.

And as of this writing, I've yet to hear the music our engineer Dave Salkeld has chosen from Salvador's new CD "Aware" for the transitions. So I'm as excited as anyone to get my download from iTunes.

John Thomas's Hungry Years fits nicely with the roundtable discussion. He talks about taking on a different persona behind the mic as a late night DJ. Sort of like how people take on a different persona on their online profiles.

We did a little something different with this week's Inbox segment by taking a question from a blog instead of our email. It's about a decision I made to forgo graduate school and trust God with my earning potential. It wasn't easy given my (and my wife's) conviction about living on one salary. A reader asks if it's possible to do in an expensive area.

This episode runs longer than usual so these segment breaks may come in handy. Call me a nerd but I use them to listen to my favorite music bumpers.

Intro
Roundtable -- 3:18
Culture -- 15:20
Hungry Years -- 21:26
Inbox -- 25:47

As always you can subscribe to the show on iTunes or with RSS. Listen and let us know what you think. And if you have a mind to, submit a review on iTunes so that others will know how great the show is. ;-)

Met and Unmet Career Expectations: Episode #6
by Motte Brown on Feb 29, 2008 at 3:31 PM


As a new college grad, I had aspirations of a career in advertising. I used to picture myself wearing JoS. A. Bank suits, meeting in glass wall offices storyboarding commercials with imaginary colleagues. But the only marketing jobs available at the time were in sales. And since that reality didn't match my expectations, I settled for waiting tables until I got my big break.

Not an advisable career move.

I languished in restaurants and bars for three years after college. Thankfully, my ambition propelled me onto bigger and better things; things I wouldn't have imagined for myself just a few years earlier. But it took time, hard work, and a luncheon my dad had with a United States Senator's right hand man.

On this week's The Boundless Show, we discuss the many paths people take in their careers and ask, "Are you where you thought you'd be?" I'm not. But I love where I've ended up.

And I'm really excited about our culture segment this week ... and our music. A couple of weeks ago Lisa and Ted got to sit down with Nick Gonzales and Chris Bevins from CCM band Salvador. Both are pastor's kids and provide some keen insight on growing up in the church. It's only part one of a two-part series, so be sure the check back next week.

A word about the music -- it's from their yet-to-be-released album (its name escapes me). Very cool that they gave us a copy and let us share some of it with you before just about anyone else! Let us know what you think of it.

For our The Hungry Years we have Steve Watters voicing a great essay called "Clear the Decks" about making sure your life isn't cluttered with activities that aren't bearing fruit. Steve says you have to be willing to cut those things off so you can grow in other areas. It's a convicting segment.

We round out this week's show with a quandary from The Inbox: A young man and woman want to marry but her parents do not approve. Steve and Candice provide some parent-honoring advice that's sure to give hope for this young couple.

Before I close, I have to give another shout out to Salvador. They are talented, gracious, and it was a real treat to sit down with them. Be sure to visit their Web site for more information about the musicians, their forthcoming CD, and tour dates and locations.

Remember, the best way to get The Boundless Show is via iTunes. If you click the "subscribe" button, you'll be assured of not missing a single show. You can also subscribe via RSS.

Singles at the Kids Table: Episode #5
by Motte Brown on Feb 25, 2008 at 4:00 PM


The Boundless Show host Lisa Anderson has another bee in her bonnet this week. This time it's about the stereotypes some co-workers, family, and church members have about singles. You know: that they're self-absorbed, immature, ambitionless recreation-seekers who won't commit. Or something like that.

Of course, people shouldn't generalize about anyone or any group. But still, it does seem to be a problem. So download this week's The Boundless Show for a lively discussion that just may save you from being relegated to kids table this Easter.

We also have Patrick Dunn, the guy from down the hall, with this week's The Hungry Years explaining how wonderfully compatible guys and girls are despite our differences. I mean, so what if all guys like to talk about is how cool it would be if we could shoot lasers from our eyes?

Our Q&A segment (aka "The Inbox") delves into a gray area of spiritual compatibility -- differences in preferences of worship styles. The questioner, David, asks how much weight should be given to these "peripheral" issues when deciding whom to marry. Steve, Ted and I tag team this one.

I think you'll enjoy the bumper music this week provided by Jesse Butterworth of Daily Planet fame and Jeff Caylor. And for your convenience, here are the segment breaks:

Intro
Roundtable -- 5:16
Hungry Years -- 20:24
The Inbox -- 25:00

You can subscribe to the show on iTunes or with RSS. Also be sure and tell your friends about us or send them a link to the show. And as always, we appreciate your feedback and questions for The Inbox segment. You can write us at editor@boundless.org.

Church Cliques: Episode #4
by Motte Brown on Feb 19, 2008 at 4:56 PM


It's tempting to think the people sitting next to us in the pews don't want to be bothered, particularly if they're in a different life stage. And if you're like me, you probably think someone else "like them" will make the effort to get to know them.

In this week's The Boundless Show, we discuss how easy it is for Christians to form little cliques within the church and how prohibitive it can be to outreach and healthy community. Is it a characteristic of a consumer mentality?

For our culture segment Lisa and Candice discuss Juno, an Indy film that's getting a lot of attention from Christians because of its "back-handed" pro-life message. I went to see it over the weekend and think it's sort of a raunchy Napoleon Dynamite. So before you go, be sure to read the review at PluggedInOnline.com because there's content that may offend your sensibilities.

Kara Schwab is back for The Hungry Years with a story about how God uses big Italian grandmothers to bring children to himself. It's funny and truly heartwarming. Ted confessed that he teared up when he heard it.

We end the show with a question from a reader who's addicted to explicit romance novels. Candice tackles this one with some solid advice like throwing away the smutty books on your shelves and replacing them with good ones; and putting down the fiction for awhile and picking up some biographies. She also provides list of books on The Line here.

Here are the segment breaks in case you want to skip to your favorite or go back and listen to something twice:

Intro
Roundtable -- 2:53
Culture -- 11:29
Hungry Years -- 18:25
Inbox -- 22:50

As always you can subscribe to the show on iTunes or with RSS. Listen and let us know what you think.

Church, Books, Podcast: Episode #4
by Candice Watters on Feb 15, 2008 at 5:47 PM


In this week's podcast, we talk about our part in plugging into a church. Interesting given that this week's CT Singles article, "The Church Drift," is about the difficulty singles have feeling fully engaged in a church body. I've found it's not that much different for singles or marrieds -- what's required of all of us is intentionality. It's not our nature to do uncomfortable things. But that's what's required. Or as Motte says, "Your life should be the church." Wow. Some challenge.

After the church conversation, I answer a question from a woman who's hooked on explicit romance novels. In the process of talking about breaking free, I promised a list of good books to take the place of the bad.

Here it is:

  • Elizabeth Goudge (hard to get, but great stories with romance)
  • Janette Oke series
  • The Journeyman, Elizabeth Yates
  • Hue and Cry, Elizabeth Yates
  • Gene Stratton Porter: Freckles, The Girl of the Limberlost, The Bee Keeper
  • Lloyd Douglas: The Robe, The Magnificent Obsession
  • Vienna Prelude (or Chronicles) by Brock and Bodie Thoene
  • George Eliot (very classic, but oh such good storytelling) Middlemarch, Daniel Deronda
  • Jane Austen (thanks for the spelling correction, Apryl!)
  • George MacDonald novels: The Marquis' Secret, The Fisherman's Lady

Many of these are classics, available from the library. I'd love to hear from any readers who've read these titles and can give a brief synopsis.

The I Heart You Show: Episode #3
by Motte Brown on Feb 12, 2008 at 10:26 AM


Many singles dread Valentine's Day. Others are perfectly happy to celebrate it by loving on people who may or may not be their sweetheart. And some simply don't care about it either way, particularly the male set. What to do?

Well, for one, you can listen to episode three of The Boundless Show because we discuss an assortment of opinions that is as varied as a box of Valentine's Day chocolates. Lisa loves it. Candice confesses it was bitter time for her as a single until.... And the guys really don't have much to say about it except that, whether single or married, it is our duty, and privilege, to pursue.

Speaking of pursuit, John Thomas shares his personal experience as a single and married man essentially proving the power women have over us men. A thought provoking commentary for men and women.

And surprise! Our Q&A this week is on ... relationships. Yes, Candice Watters and Patrick Dunn, the guy down the hall, tackle the soul mate myth. Candice's advice is as solid as ever and Patrick speaks of his suspicion every time a friend claims to have found "the one" after only a couple of talks over coffee.

Remember, the best way to get it is via iTunes. If you click the "subscribe" button, you'll be assured of not missing a single show. You can also subscribe via RSS.

Airing It Out on Pseudo-relationships: Episode #2
by Motte Brown on Feb 1, 2008 at 6:24 PM


Uncommitted, intimate friendships between members of the opposite sex usually never turn out well. Neither do ambiguous pseudo-relationships where the couples back their way into dating without stated intentions.

These are some of the things we discuss on this week's "The Boundless Show." But don't worry, the show won't always be relationship heavy. As our host Lisa Anderson explains, we're focusing on it only through Valentine's Day. After that, it's open season on pretty much everything.

But while we're there, you won't want to miss Lisa's interview with Candice Watters about her book, Get Married: What Women Can Do to Help it Happen. If you ladies follow Candice's advice, enabling relationship ambiguity won't be an issue.

We also have longtime Boundless contributor Kara Schwab in this week's "The Hungry Years" segment with a beautiful illustration on how we love sin like her dog loves vomit. Good times.

Last but not least, Steve Watters answers a question from a listener who's struggling with Internet addiction. You may not know this but Steve wrote a book about the subject titled, Real Solutions for Overcoming Internet Addictions. And he gives great advice here.

We really appreciated all the constructive criticism and kudos we received after our first show. And we've taken it to heart. We've shortened the chat at the beginning and have included the segment times here:

Intro
Roundtable -- 3:42
Culture -- 15:06
Hungry Years -- 21:45
Inbox -- 25:39

However, you won't want to skip over the bumper music. We're using the rest of Jeff Caylor's tunes from his top rated cd, "Okay."

The show is available on iTunes. We also have an RSS feed set up for it.

The Boundless Show: Episode #1
by Motte Brown on Jan 26, 2008 at 3:54 PM


Do single men have an obligation to pursue the single women in their church? And do single women have an obligation to say yes? Or at least to seriously consider all offers?

These are some of the questions we grapple with in the inaugural episode of The Boundless Show, our weekly audio companion to the Boundless Webzine.

The Boundless team has been working for months finding voices and tweaking formats in order to leverage a growing, on-demand media channel -- podcasting. And we think we've landed on just the right mix.

Our segments include a brief chat session, a roundtable discussion, a look at culture, a personal story, and answers to questions from our readers (and soon, our listeners). All the segments will be hosted by Lisa Anderson, Focus on the Family's director of public and media relations who's been known to speak at national conferences wearing tall boots and a skull T-shirt.

In this first episode, all the music you hear is from Jeff Caylor's latest album, "Okay."

Candice Watters will be joining us each week to provide her valuable insights. She'll also be a regular in the question and answer session. Steve, Ted, and I are consistent contributors to the show's roundtable and will be occasional voices in the other features.

We'll tackle the hard stuff, answer the tough questions and have fun while doing it. Hopefully you'll have fun, too.

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