Wishin' and Hopin' ... and Being Intentional: Episode 98

Wishin' and Hopin' ... and Being Intentional -- 0:00
It's always great to catch up with the Focus Leadership Institute students on The Boundless Show. This time it's girls only. And Lisa leads off the discussion about the desire for marriage. I must say, these ladies handle it wonderfully. Maybe it's because they've been Boundlessized. Just kidding. It's because they're bright young women who've come to embrace their desire for family while pursuing the talent and gifts God has given them for this season of transitions.

A Sonflowerz Christmas -- 16:43
Elissa and Becca Leander just got back from performing at music festivals in the U.K. and share their experiences on the road and the challenges of maintaining a worshipful spirit ... unless you go on a Compassion mission trip to El Salvador to meet your sponsor child. They also share their new music from their first Christmas cd "Beautiful Miracle," which is also the name of my favorite song on the cd (found at the 33:24 mark of the podcast)

And you can win it right here on Boundless.

Just send us an email to editor@boundless.org with some meaningful Christmas traditions you had growing up and we'll pick five of our favorites and send you The Sonflowerz cd. (Please write "Christmas Traditions" in the subject line.) One that we've carried over from my wife's family is ringing bells on Christmas morning to celebrate Christ's birth. Probably won't win any cd's but we enjoy it.

What You Need to Know About the Guy -- 33:24
Girl meets guy, begins hanging out with him, and doesn't know if she knows him well enough to begin a relationship. Candice advises what she should be looking for as they continue getting together. Things like, does he have a job, is he a member of a church, is he involved, what are his interests, etc. In other words, be very intentional about your interactions. Candice and Lisa also have a word for the women in the church who have a role to play in this budding relationship.

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1. Rael said the following at 7:41 PM on Dec 3:

Wow. That last segment was very insightful, and came at a perfect time for me. It's almost like Someone plans when you discuss certain subjects! ;-) Thank you for your wise words, ladies!

2. Alison said the following at 3:03 PM on Dec 4:

Candice thanks for addressing the "protecting your heart" over used phrase.

3. Julie said the following at 3:22 PM on Dec 4:

I was just thinking today about what I'll tell my daughter to look for in guys. I think I'll tell her to first identify the ones with godly, mature, gentlemanly character--among that group, are there any that stir her heart? Too often, we identify those to whom we're most attracted first, and then try to discern their character, only by that point, we often have huge blind spots!

4. BDB said the following at 5:59 PM on Dec 5:

"Minor Control Issues" would be a good name for a rock band.

5. BI said the following at 4:19 AM on Dec 6:

BDB, 4

The best way to control someone is to convince them that they have "minor control issues."

6. BDB said the following at 10:53 AM on Dec 6:

Minor Control Issues also sounds like a Sunday School class that has run amuck.

7. Sheri said the following at 2:56 PM on Dec 6:

Thanks for answering my letter Boundless! It was really helpful, mostly since I failed to mention that those women were my peers, not older married women.

I have made a list of things that I could ask him to get more insight on his views in family matters, goals...etc. I already knew a lot of the great suggestions that Candice mentioned, such as whether he has a job and is an active believer. Fortunately he is a commited Christian who is highly esteemed by the elders and deacons in our church. We go to two of the same Bible studies a week, and he not only has a job, but is in the MBA graduate program, and is financially stable enough that he owns three vehicles, and is looking to buy a house! I did make a list though, of things that I would like to find out including how do he and his sister settle arguements? (they have an apartment together) Do we compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses? I really want to home school my kids someday, what are his views on this? What are his views on how clean a house should be kept? Is God blessing our interactions, or do we tend to cause strife and foolishness when we are around each other? Can I easily have a serious spiritual discussion with him? What are our differences and are they deal breakers? I have a few other ideas as well, but those were some of the main ones. It would be interesting to see if anyone else has anything to add to this list. What are some good things to look for in a person, and what should I examine in my own life in this area?

8. BDB said the following at 12:20 AM on Dec 7:

Sheri - have you prayed about this?

What was God's answer?

(Aside from that, views on tithing and missions tend to be quite revealing. If he becomes an MBA grad making $120,000/year, is he prepared to tithe $1000/month?)